"It takes two to tango" - But one to ruin it.

"It takes two to tango" is a phrase that's been thrown around a lot over time, mainly to signify that the blame is never one sided and that both sides are to blame for the fallout they went through. Sure, there is definitely responsibility on both sides. But if you think it's that simple, then you have no idea of the complexities involved in ANY sort of relationship. It is NEVER EQUAL blame on both sides. There is ALWAYS ONE that has done far more damage than the other and usually the damage done by the other was in understandable retaliation.

But having known the ropes for a while now, I have an easy way to determine the true transgressor. When one side refuses to acknowledge their low-level behaviour and then continues to inflict it on others without remorse, I know who to call out. And when one side chooses to acknowledge their mistake and then grow from it, I know who to praise and support. It's quite simple when you think about it! But the trick is in spotting the continued transgressions of the one, and the genuine growth of the other, because it's not that easy. It usually takes someone who has DONE THE WORK and GROWN themselves to spot that genuine growth in another person.

So today, that phrase - "It takes two to tango" - is usually nothing more than a cliché thrown around flippantly by the public at large. BUT, for certain narcissistic "monsters" out there that prey on the compassionate, it is nothing but a convenient excuse to hide behind, to escape their personal responsibility, to escape confronting what they've done, to escape confronting themselves! And they will continue to do so because that's WHAT they are: MONSTERS!

Yes, it takes TWO to tango, but ONE to ruin it!